I have just returned from a work event in Hawaii, which also coincided with my partners 50th. I have never travelled there previously and I found it to be a land of contrasts. Extreme wealth, tourism and militarism mixed with homelessness and mental health issues.
The island is lovely, yet artificial in many ways. A history of US colonialism and military dominance. Colonialism is everywhere and continues with Israel today.
Anyway, that’s another story. What intrigued me was how prevalent alcohol was at the conference. Welcome night, every afternoon we had drinks, the conference dinner and then the farewell. I did succumb to a few cocktails. I felt awful the next day.
One can rationalise my behaviour in any way one wants. All I know is that I picked up a drink. It was a mistake. I own it. No one else made me do it.
I’ve been re-reading the Russel Brand book ‘Recovery’. Ironically, I read it all the flight home. It’s an excellent book. I had forgotten just how good.
So I start again. One day at a time.
I’m thinking of returning to AA. Russell mentions that AA quote – ‘the opposite of addiction is connection.’ Be it connection with ourselves, with our kids, partners, friends or strangers at a conference. We are all trying to connect and live with a level of authenticity. Alcohol actually creates artificial connection and authenticity, but we take it to be true. And so we drink/eat/gamble/shop/watch porn/work endlessly – whatever we become dependent on, in an effort to connect to our true selves. Of course, our addictions will never allow us to truly connect.
We are a fascinating species.
Onward ho.
Boozebrain